Raising Sons to be God-Honoring Men

"You must become what you want your child to become, if you would bring him to repentance.
You must become a person of joy, peace and love.
You must know God and love Him.
You must be disciplined and holy in your own personal life.
You must tend to your marriage so that it becomes the envy of all who know you well."
 
This made me realize that if I want to raise rude kids then all I have to do is be rude.
If I want to raise complainers, then I have to complain.
If I want to raise ungrateful brats, then I have to be ungrateful.
If I want to raise good mothers and wives, then I have to be one.
If I want to raise good fathers and husbands, then I have to be one.
If I want to raise kids that love God and obey Him with all their hearts, then I have to do it first." 

As I read this statement by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy Ministries, it reallly struck a chord with me. 

There's so much truth here.

Children will mimic what they see....& will act how as you allow them to act.

My response to people to ask us questions about upbringing & child-rearing is this: 

we may make different decisions than most, but we're wanting different results than most!

 

We know people wonder why we don't allow our sons to 'run around or hang out' with various church youth groups, neighborhood acquaintances, or even certain family members.

We are very selective with who we allow to influence our sons.

We realize that every person we allow them to spend time with will either support or tear down this foundation we are working to build.

 

With the help of our loving Father, here's what we're attempting to do:

 

We are working hard to raise upstanding young men who love the Lord, love & respect their parents {& each other}, who are responsible & aren't afraid to work.

We are teaching them to honor their grandparents, the elderly & those in authority over them.

We want them to be productive ... & do more with their day than play video games.

 

We want them to love to read, seek knowledge & be able to hold an intelligent conversation.

 

We expect them to help out around the house & realize that as a family, it takes each of us working together to make our family work!

 

They have to complete their assigned chores & keep their room/things organized & tidy.

{Someday their respective wives will thank us.}

 I've said plenty of times, there will be no slobs coming out of this house;)

Not only does this teach responsibility now, it will help them someday when they will be the provider of their own home.

We want them to see the value of hard work & feel the pride of accomplishment with a job well-done.

 

We are teaching them the importance of God's Word.

Their father leads our family worship every day, instructing & guiding us, as the head of our home.

What an awesome leader they have in him...

a model of Biblical manhood lived out before them everyday.

 

Our fervent heart's cry is to seek first the kingdom of God as we are raising up our sons.

Do we do everything right as parents?  No.

We are in need of God's grace each & every day.

 

Our goal is to look back & know that we redeemed the time we were given during these impressionable, formative years....

that we poured into our sons the ingredients to help them grow into God-honoring men.

 

 

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.  Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.  Psa. 127: 3-5

Iced Pumpkin Cookies

We tried a new recipe today:  Iced Pumpkin Cookies. 

Not only were they very tasty, they couldn't be simpler to make!

Ingredients are as follows:

1 box spice cake mix
1 c. canned pumpkin
1 egg
1/2 stick butter, melted
2 tsp. pumpkin pie spice
1 tub prepared icing

optional:  1/2 c. raisins &/or 1/2 c. walnuts

**I did not have a spice cake mix, so I substituted a carrot cake.
    It worked perfectly.

Preheat oven to 350.  Stir together all ingredients til well blended.  Drop by the teaspoonful onto cookie sheets;  press down cookie batter w/fork (if desired).
Bake 10-12 mins.

After completely cooled, ice cookies w/ buttercream or cream cheese icing.

Practicing Hospitality

Ever gone to bed feeling stressed, too much on your mind, almost guaranteeing a night of unrest & a not-so-chipper morning?
This was me last night.
I headed upstairs feeling exactly that...
stressed at the upcoming activities & the general busyness of the season....& in a matter of minutes, I literally had a headache.

I am not one to 'stress out' too often, generally keeping things in perspective, for the most part;)
But, it's not everyday that your 'babies' are turning 16!

Last night, we were attempting to come up with a 'count' for the upcoming birthday party {Saturday} & I became overwhelmed at the number of people that will be in our home!!
We've hosted a variety of events here...bible studies, teaching sessions, girl's night out groups, parties of all kinds...but never with a group quite as large as this 16th birthday party for our sons!

Of course, I'd like everything to be just 'right.'
I want our sons to have a memorable party & our guests to have a good time, enjoying food & fellowship.
As I begin to ponder the plan for the week & the necessary schedule to carry out this plan, I started feeling overwhelmed.

But, in His usual fashion, my heavenly Father began working on my behalf almost instantly.
Before going to bed, I read a few pages from "The Hospitality Commands" by Alexander Strauch.
I turned right to a paragraph explaining how hospitality is a form of giving and how  "God loves a cheerful giver."  {2 Cor. 9:7}
It went on to say that being hospitable is a down-to-earth test of our love for God & his people....it is love in action.
It is the flesh & muscle on the bones of love.

How rich is that passage?
I felt God reminding me that even though we are hosting a birthday party, celebrating the lives of the 2 wonderful gifts we got for Christmas almost 16 yrs ago, we can {& should} still practice hospitality!
While our friends & family are coming to show their love for our precious sons, this is also an opportunity for us to bless all who come through our doors with a warm place to spend the evening, food to fill their bellies, & fellowship to fill their hearts.

And that was on my mind when I went to sleep.
God is so mindful of me that he directed me to something that would change my outlook & dispel my worries.
After a restful night's sleep, I awoke this morning with my mindset focused on 'EVERYTHING as unto the Lord.'
Whether I'm baking cookies, wrapping Christmas gifts, cleaning my home, or preparing for a birthday party, I will do it all as unto the Lord.

How easily we become distracted, especially during this Christmas season.
We worry more than we worship.
We hurry through this blessed time more than we enjoy the true meaning of it all.
It's amazing what a few minutes alone with God can do to renew your spirit.

I am so thankful for the mercies that He makes new every morning!
I am so thankful for the reminder to live today & every day so that HE gets the glory.
For He alone is worthy!

Celebrating James' Birthday

What a wonderful husband I have!
If I listed all his amazing qualities, well, it'd be a looong list.

The birthday boy & birthday burger!

I recently heard about a little historic restaurant in Columbus & decided that would be the perfect place to take him {as a surprise} for his 38th birthday!
I didn't tell him where we were headed, just that we were all going to dinner.
James is a history buff...well, we all are...so from everything I'd heard, I knew we were going to enjoy this place!

Well, let me tell you, Zaharako's {in Columbus} was as great as everyone said it would be!
We absolutely loved it.
It was literally like taking a step back in time.
It was decorated for Christmas & was a sight to behold!

Zaharako's Ice Cream Parlor & Museum originally opened on October 20, 1900!!
In the museum, there are many photos taken throughout the years.
It was so interesting to see the very same marble counter filled with customers being waited on by the soda jerks.
The menu had a list of the 'lingo' used back then when placing your soda & ice cream orders.
We had a good time with those while we were waiting on our food.

The museum is home to several antique marble soda fountains...in fact, it's the largest collection of pre-1900 fountains on public display.

In 1908, the Zaharako family added a Welte orchestrion {self-playing organ} to the shop & it remains there still to this day.

We were delighted to hear it just before we left.

Our sons, in the museum, sitting at this spectacular counter/bar.

Checking out the candy~

We enjoyed having Carissa join us for the evening.

Zaharako's was named one the top 20 historic places in the USA to visit by National Geographic.

We wondered how we hadn't heard about this wonderful little place til now, especially seeing as it's only a 30 minute drive.

We can't wait to go back this summer & enjoy another dip of the homemade ice cream & a fountain chocolate coke!

Our Thanksgiving Table

It was our turn this year to host the Thanksgiving dinner
for my side of the family {the Alexanders}.
There were 17 of us, in total.
Everyone was here ... & that alone is something to be grateful for.
{Even Tiffiny got to come home from SC, bringing Dan for us all to meet}.

The table was all put together the night before.
Boy, was I ever thankful for finding all these pumpkins & gourds
at the market for 10 cents each!
What a lovely addition they made to the table, especially the pumpkin topiaries!
I wanted centerpieces that could stay on the table during dinner
without being too big or obtrusive.
I had a 'lightbulb' moment & put these topiaries together.... & they were perfect!

We had an outstanding dinner, as usual.
We are all good cooks, even if I have to say so myself;)
Our momma taught us well.

Brining the turkey was the way to go!  My dad said it was the best turkey he'd ever had!

James carved it up so pretty!  Also pictured is the homemade stuffing {made with bread}.

Our menu consisted of:  turkey, dressing, noodles, mashed potatoes, gravy, ham, shrimp, rolls, deviled eggs, broccoli salad, confetti salad, sweet potatoe casserole, green beans, corn, pumpkin pie, cookies, turtles, fudge, cranberry salad, & heavenly delicious dessert.
And honestly, I could be forgetting something! 

Mom's delicious homemade noodles...everyone's favorites.

Lisa's tasty ham

Don't know if the guys would know what to do if my brother didn't bring the shrimp!!

And although our bellies were as full as could be {too full}, our hearts were even 'fuller' ;)
We thoroughly enjoyed everyone's company, from start to finish.
These are the days when memories are made....days we'll look back on & treasure... the life, love & laughter.

Dad & Mom heading up the line.

my nieces: Tiffiny, Erica & Natalie  {love these girls}

May our hearts be grateful all year long.
Hebrews 13:15   ...let us offer the sacrifice of praise to God continually  ... the fruit of our lips giving thanks to his name.

The Attitude Behind the Gratitude

Thanksgiving has been called the forgotten holiday.
It's sandwiched between Halloween & Christmas, both very commercial.
There's hardly a spot on the store shelves for turkeys & pilgrims.
As soon as the masses of costumes are gone, the isles are quickly filled with garland & gift wrap.
Christmas seems to come sooner each year.

I'll admit, even in our own family, we haven't honored Thanksgiving Day as we could have.
It's easy to get caught up in the festivities & lose focus of the true meaning & significance.

Last week, James said that we'd be focusing all this week on the true meaning of Thanksgiving in our evening family worship.
I've given the boys 2 writing assignments this week.
The first was to write about their greatest spiritual blessing of the year.
The other was to write what event/occasion of 2010 that they were most grateful for...how it impacted them & how they benefited from it.

Each day this week, our morning devotions have been about thankfulness & gratitude.
I stumbled across a excellent one & wanted to share a portion of it.

It begins with Cain & Abel at harvest time with Cain bringing the Lord a gift of his farm produce...& Abel, choice lambs from his flock.

Here is what the scripture records in Genesis 4: 3-7:In the course of time Cain brought to the Lord an offering of the fruit of the ground, and Abel also brought of the firstborn of his flock and of their fat portions.  And the Lord had regard for Abel and his offering, but for Cain and his offering, he had no regard.  So Cain was very angry and his face fell.  And the Lord said to Cain, "Why are you angry and why has your face fallen?  If you do well, will you not be accepted?  And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire is for you, but you must rule over it."

One thanksgiving, two men, two offerings, and two different reactions.
The Lord was looking for both of them to realize who was God and who was not.
God wanted, on this first thanksgiving, for them to bring an offering to praise Him.

Why did God reject Cain's offering?
While there are many theories, the most common is that he Cain wasn't operating from the right motives.
Abel, however, gave his offering with a grateful heart, which is why God smiled back at him.

Are you more of a 'Cain' or an 'Abel'?

Here's a glimpse into what a Thanksgiving would look like for Cain:
He's looking forward to gorging himself on free food.
He is thankful for a few days off from school or work {because he likes to be lazy}.
He wants to be served first at the table, and when it comes time to give thanks before the meal, his mind wanders to what is going on with the football game.
When his family gathers to have a time of sharing about things for which they are thankful, he is annoyed that his family that has to do such cheesy things, and wishes he didn't have to follow any rules.
Eventually the day ends, and finally he utters a quick prayer to God, thanking Him for...what was it again?
Oh yeah, all the cool stuff he has.
This kind of thanksgiving may look real on the outside, but in reality it is fake and useless, and that is why God rejects it.

Abel, on the other hand, remembers that even the very air he breathes is a gift from God.
He knows that if there is anything good in his life, it is directly from the hand of God.
His focus is to take the energy he would normally devote to school/work and direct it towards thanking God and serving others.
He is helpful, intentional in listening to others, and active in participating in the family traditions.
At the end of the day he counts his many blessings and gives thanks for each and every one of them.

What a difference in attitudes!
At this time of year, especially, as we reflect on life and respond with being thankful, but let's remember that God cares very much about the attitude behind the gratitude.

True & heartfelt thankfulness {all year long} has an amazing effect.
It protects us from sin, gives us hope, & turns our eyes on Jesus.

1 Thess. 5:18 In everything give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.

Fall Decorations

Our home seems to just lend itself to fall decor.
Our walls are painted a warm earthy palette.
The living room walls are a leathered treatment (took me 2 full days to complete!).
Our dining room has an accent wall of pumpkin...& the other walls (& into the kitchen) are painted 'ponytail'...kind of a soft, sandy color.
The office is chocolate brown.
You get the idea.

So, when fall time rolls around, decorating is a breeze!
At the end of August, I pull in the 2 orange storage totes that I keep in the garage, filled with scarecrows, leaf garland, keepsakes the boys have made through the years, & porcelain pumpkins & goards.
I tuck these autumnal things here & there, changing around my tablescapes, placemats, napkins & tableclothes to bring the fall colors inside.

This hangs here to somewhat hide the thermostat;)
I switch out the greenery each season or add a few new sprigs/branches to change the look.

I moved my antique mirror from the wall to my coffeetable...by adding a scarecrow & a fall swag, I've got a pretty tablescape.

I change out the plates each season in these wall plate holders.

I look through my photo albums for pictures of our family taken in the fall months...ones that showcase the beautiful oranges & reds...& put them out into frames.

This collage is a freebie from Walgreens {pics from our day at the orchard}.
By adding an orange border, it's the perfect addition to the fall decor.

This shadowbox was a gift from a dear friend. 
I switch out the picture with the season/occasion {when it's someone's bday month, I put a pic from a past bday party}.
I added the leaves behind the picture.

I love it all so much that I kinda hate to pack it all away.
My sister & I take turns hosting Thanksgiving.
So, every other year, it's at our house.
When it's our turn, all our fall decor stays out through Thanksgiving...no Christmas decorating til afterward.

We keep out the turkeys, pilgrims & pumpkins to keep the Thanksgiving theme front & center.
This year, it'll be at our house, so we'll get to enjoy my favorite season of all a little longer!

This 'Autumn' sign is my favorite.  It's on an old piece of barn wood & the hanger is barbed wire.
I picked it up at a yard sale.

I'll post pictures of our Thanksgiving table in a couple days. 

Can't wait to use all the mini-pumpkins I got at the farmers market for 10 cents each!

Front porch decor

He who thanks but with the lips, thanks but in part;
The full, the true Thanksgiving comes from the heart.
~J.A. Shedd

Pizza Burgers

As I promised yesterday, here's a recipe that I created to use some jumbo seeded hamburger buns.
As a little girl, we'd sometimes go to Taco Tico {before the days of Taco Bell} & I liked to get the taco burger.
This recipe is kind of a recreation of that, only instead of being taco flavored, I choose to go with pizza.

Angie's Pizza Burgers

Brown 1.5 lb hamburger meat & drain.
Return meat to the pan & add in about 1/2 cup each of diced onion & green pepper.
Sprinkle in 1/4 tsp. garlic powder, 1/2 tsp. oregano, salt & pepper to taste.
Chop 12-15 slices of pepperoni into small pieces & stir in.
Lastly, pour in 14 oz. jar of pizza sauce & simmer for 15-20 mins.

On baking sheet, lay out the hamburger buns.
{Any type or size will work --This is an open faced burger, so keep this in mind when deciding servings.  I used  6 buns to make 12 servings.}

Scoop the meat mixture onto the buns, distributing evenly.
Top each with shredded mozzarella & cheddar cheese.
Bake for 15-20 at 375.

I served this with tater tots & it was such fun & yummy meal!

Remember, most recipes {except baking} are general guidelines.
They can usually be tinkered with...leaving out or adding in to the desired preference.

Homemade Bread Crumbs

Never throw out bread!
There are so many uses for it.


We were camping recently & I bought more hotdog buns than we ended up using.
So, rather than letting them sit in the pantry til they became stale or moldy,
I turned them into bread crumbs to use in meatloaf or breading for chicken, etc.


All you need is a food chopper/processor!
I used 11 hotdog buns & 3 heels of bread.
In a matter of a couple minutes, I filled a gallon-size freezer bag 1/2 full.
Store this in your freezer to maximize freshness.

Our Kroger often has bread clearanced down...sometimes priced as low as a quarter!
I love to find these deals!
I will plan meals around these finds.
For example:  Sub buns for cheap...plan on sub sandwiches for lunch the next day.
Dinner rolls, bagels, english muffins:  stock your freezer with them.
They are perfect in the oven or toaster.
We don't particularly like to use frozen bread for sandwiches, so I use that for french toast or bread pudding.


Be creative...every saving counts!

{Tomorrow, I'll be sharing a recipe I created to make use of some jumbo seeded hamburger buns.  It was a BIG hit with the boys!}

My Day Has Gone to Pot!

Only 8:10 & already my day has gone to pot...

coffee pot & netipot.

What a way to start the morning =)

I woke up a couple days ago with a really dry throat & a panic!
It's tooo close to the holidays to get sick -- this can't be happening!!
We are hosting Thanksgiving this year {for my family}, so I need all my energy...
& some to spare.
So, I began amping up the vitamins & antihistamine.
Yesterday, Riley even juiced me some fresh oranges.

Dutifully following the doctor's orders {James}, I added in the netipot this morning.
It's not my favorite way to start the morning, but I sure enjoy the relief it brings.

{If you aren't sure what a netipot is, google it.  You can even watch a 'how to' video on youtube!  You'll wanna pick one up before the cold season gets into full swing.  I promise, it works wonders!}

Thankfully the other 'pot' balanced out my morning;)
My morning cup of coffee with pumpkin spice creamer made it all better.

And now, I'm off to the Christmas Gift & Hobby Show with my sister.
The day is looking up.

I read this quote this morning on a Raising Homemaker's blog & thought it was perfect to add.

“What a grand world this would be if we could forget our troubles as

easily as we forget our blessings.” — author unknown

My Trash Pick

Have you ever gone trash picking...dumpster diving?
Ya know, taking a day & making a specific plan to go digging through trash?


I have NOT ... nor do I ever intend to, but I do have some friends who have.
They especially like to go to colleges at the end of the school year & scoop up things that the students have left behind.


My husband has found some pretty amazing things, just by chance, that folks have tossed out to trash.
He just happened to be driving by the right place at the right time.
Probably his best find was a set of beauty shop chairs, in great condition, which he sold for $75 each!
Our 1st lawn mower was picked from someone's trash.
It started right up, not a thing wrong with it...& we used it for 3 years!
There have been numerous other items that have been put out for trash {too many to mention} that James has brought home...2 gorgeous flower pots recently.
{The other day, he found a chain saw on the side of the road...a nice one, in the case.
Apparently, it had fallen off someone's truck!}

But last November, I entered the ranks!!
I trash picked!!
How could I not when this beauty was sitting out in my parent's neighbors' garbage?

This beautiful picture had been put out in the trash!!
We had just gotten home from the Smoky Mountains.
While James & 2 of the boys were getting things carried in, Gunnar & I ran to my parent's house to pick up our dog, Cooper.
As we were heading down the street, my headlights landed on this, wedged in between 2 trash cans.
I slowed down, but drove on, thinking for sure it was probably damaged.
I quickly decided that I had to at least look at it, so I backed up.


I am so glad I did.
There's not one thing wrong with this beautiful piece of art!
It's got the price tag on the back {JC Penney $275}!!


Now, for the really special part to this story!
We had looked all over in TN to find a seasonal picture to hang in the living room, but no such luck...
only to come home & on that very day find this!
I like to think that God had a little something to do with it.


This picture went into my closet until I did our fall decorating in September.

It'll hang here until late March when I'll switch back to my summer decor...
& everytime I look at it, I'll be reminded of all our many unexpected blessings...
some even out of the trash;)

Ecc. 3:11  He hath made everything beautiful in His time~

Bonnets & Buggies {A Visit to Amish Country}

It's like a step back in time. 

Things move at a slower pace. 

You can almost feel it in the air....a slow motion, of sorts. 

As you drive along the gravel roads, passing one windmilled farm after another, it's like you're taking a glimpse into the past.

Really, this does something for your spirit   ... enriches it, calms it, centers it.

It causes you to think of your past, evaluate your present, & ponder your future.

For these reasons, we will always be drawn to amish country.

This is the little schoolhouse located about a mile or so from the campground.

We've been blessed to visit 4 of the top 10 largest amish communities in the US

{with 5 of the top 10 located in Indiana!}.

We've been to Shipshewana, Napanee, Lagrange & Adams Counties (all in Indiana)...& Holmes County, OH.

There are several other lil' communities throughout IN, not on the top 10 list ... we've visited many of those too.

Farm equipment at the home neighboring the campground

Our particular favorite place to visit is in Adams County, Indiana. 

There's an old order settlement in & around the town of Berne, which was originally settled by those who came directly from Switzerland in about 1850.

It's the 5th largest Amish settlement in the US, with about 7200 living there.

There are 47 conservative districts represented with several little towns within 10-15 miles. You will begin seeing Amish communities starting in Portland on 

through Bryant, Geneva, & Berne.

When you head out into the country, it's one Amish farm after another.

The quaint little town of Geneva

We visit Adams County at least once every year. 

We love to camp at Amishville USA. 

It's located in Geneva, right in the heart of amish country. 

{The campground itself is surrounded by amish farms}. 

I took this at the Berne Heritage Festival.  The Amish do not like their photos taken & I highly respect that. Any pictures that I've taken are with discretion & not of their faces.

 

Our connection to Amishville Campground started years ago with James' family.

They loved visiting & camping there.

In fact, James' 1st trip there was when we was a little boy

{probably age 3 or 4 yrs old}. 

So, we decided to make it a tradition for our family...

& it became the 1st official camping trip for our lil' guys.

The twins were 5 & Riley was 3.

This is what you find on the shelves of their general store {Berne}

This is the hitching garage for all the buggies...full on a Saturday {Berne}

So, every year as we pack up for our weekend camping trip, we begin looking forward to the peaceful time we know we'll have.

We anticipate the places that we love to visit...certain stores & farms.

We sometimes stop in on the amish farmer that shoes horses in his barn  ...

he doesn't mind us watching.

We go to an amish bakery out in the country ... the girls are all barefoot & shy;)

James always finds someone to 'sell' him some fresh milk.

We've even gone to amish bake sales & yard sales.

{One sale was a combo of both & it was inside her house!

I bought a nice set of silverware for our camper.}

And, usually, there's a family that comes through the campground with the back of their buggy laden with baked goods or fresh produce.

Course, we always have to buy some of that;)

Next year when we return, we'll visit these same places...& the landscape will remain virtually untouched.

Still slow-paced & peaceful.